Dreams

A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes? Most Likely!

Other Thoughts, Real World

“I believe in everything until it’s disproved. So I believe in fairies, the myths, dragons. It all exists, even if it’s in your mind. Who’s to say that dreams and nightmares aren’t as real as the here and now?”

― John Lennon

As someone who has very real and lucid dreams each night, I find sleeping and dreaming to be fascinating subjects.

I dream about a myriad of things: current friends, pain, old boyfriends, moving residences, ghosts, happiness, the Energizer Bunny, summers at the beach, Kit Kats, people cheating on each other, something someone said to me that one time… the list goes on and on.

Sometimes, I get so emotionally involved in my dreams that I don’t even feel rested when I wake up because my mind has been so active during the night. I know that I’m technically unconscious when I’m dreaming, but it feels so real. Thusly, I decided to do some research on dreaming.

The brain is amazing, fascinating and complicated, and here is what I found out:

You Can Control Your Dreams

As mentioned before, I finally have started to be able to control my dreams. It took a lot of confusing dreams to finally decide I wanted to look up how this is even possible.

My first lucid dream, which is what they call the dream that can be manipulated by the dreamer, was very simple. I remember that my goal in the dream was to fly, but for some reason, my legs would not let me. My dream self stopped for a moment, and declared out loud that this was a dream and that I could do anything I wanted to. Then, I started to fly. I woke up both very impressed and slightly confused.

A few years back, CNN published an article on lucid dreaming, saying that, “In fact, humans have known about lucid dreaming for centuries; Tibetan Buddhists began practicing “dream yoga” more than 1,000 years ago as a means of attaining a purer form of consciousness through awareness in dreams.”

So how does one have a lucid dream? For one, you can try to remind yourself before you go to sleep that you will be dreaming soon. It doesn’t always work, but sometimes it can help ease you into the process of lucid dreaming.

Or, you can assume the old fashion way and just let yourself have dreams that unfold without your dream self’s intervention.

Dream land

When You Dream, Your Body is Paralyzed

This is extremely scary to think about, in my personal opinion. However, it happens to every person while they dream every single night. This occurs during the REM atonia stage; REM means Rapid Eye Movement and is the phase most closely connected with dreaming, while atonia means lack of muscle tension.

According to World Of Lucid Dreaming:

“REM atonia is an essential sleep mechanism. As you fall asleep, it cuts off the electrical signals between your muscles and your brain so that you can sleep peacefully each night. In short, it stops you from acting out your dreams.

The experience of sleep paralysis occurs when your mind (in part) wakes up, but your body remains asleep. Physically asleep, you remain paralyzed. But mentally conscious, you may start to panic and the half-dreaming mind conjures up nightmarish images to “explain” what is happening, often based on cultural beliefs.”

But alas, it’s all normal! So that makes me feel a little bit better. Sort of?

You Forget 90% of Your Dreams

For the longest time, I refused to believe this was true. I feel as if every night I have a certain number of dreams and remember at least a few (weird and quirky) aspects of each one. How could I possibly still forget 90% of my dreams?!

Most studies suggest that people over 10 years old can dream from 4 to 6 times a night. The general “rule of thumb,” according to How Stuff Works, is as follows:

“It is said that five minutes after the end of a dream, we have forgotten 50 percent of the dream’s content. Ten minutes later, we’ve forgotten 90 percent of its content.”

There are many different theories on why this is so. “Freud theorized that we forget our dreams because they contain our repressed thoughts and wishes and so we shouldn’t want to remember them anyway. Other research points to the simple reason that other things get in the way. We are forward-thinking by nature, so remembering something when we first wake up is difficult.”

In Our Dreams, You Only See Faces You Already Know

This is yet another fact that I refused to believe for the longest time. I was completely convinced that there was no way in hell that I could have seen every person in my dream. In fact, I was sure that my mind was trying to mess with me after a while.

The fact of the matter is: we only dream of what we know. It’s a little hard for me to wrap my head around, seeing as though I always that creative people’s minds were different and could create new images. However, it’s simply not so.

I was on the Phillippine Psychiatric Association page when I came across this fact: “The strangers that we see in our dreams are actually real people that we might have actually seen during our lifetime even though we might not just know or even remember them. Because we meet a lot of people everyday during our lifetime, it is only natural for us to have an endless supply of characters that our brain could use when we dream.”

Brain: 1000000, Me: 0.

Dreams Are Symbolic

This one is one of the more interesting pieces of information on dreaming, in my opinion. Dreams can be weird, bizarre and have nothing to do with anything; they can also be symbolic and reoccuring due to the fact that your brain is trying to tell you something important. It just varies.

Like a lot of women, I’ve looked up “themes” in my dream dictionary only to be convinced that the symbolic representation of my dream was incorrect. But sometimes, it takes a bit more work to figure out what our dreams mean to us.

According to Harvard-trained psychotherapist Jeffrey Sumber (found on Women’s Day), “The meaning of our dreams oftentimes relates to things we are needing to understand about ourselves and the world around us. We tend to dismiss these dreams due to the strange components, yet it is the feeling we have in these dreams that matters most.”

So, dreams are obviously up to interpretation. What matters most is your interpretation and how you feel about your dream. While you may not focus on the actual figures and go for the overarching picture.

And if you don’t get it right away, don’t worry. Your brain has that handled. Sometimes reoccurring dreams will occur as a way of trying to get a point across.

Men and Women Dream Differently

I always assumed both sexes had the same type of dreams, but looking back, how could they? We don’t even think in the same way. In general, men and women experience the world very differently.

According to a recently published article by Huffington Post, themes pop up differently for each gender during the time that they dream.

For example, “women may have a tendency to dream of emotions, relationships, and family members. In contrast, men may have a tendency to dream of violence, strangers, cars, and sex with unknown partners.”

That sounds about dead on.

And as if that doesn’t differentiate our dreams enough, women and men also interpret dreams differently. Shocker there? Not at all, because we interpret things differently when we are awake, as well.

“Women tend to recall more details of their dreams and regard them as more important, on average, than most men might. Women are also more likely to share, record, and discuss their dreams with others. Additionally, women are more likely to define a dream as being a nightmare and are more likely than men to seek out dream interpretation and/or use a dream dictionary to help them to understand the meaning of their dreams,” states the article. That sure explains why I have three different dream dictionaries, doesn’t it?

Sure, there are exceptions to these very scientific but “gender-based stereotypes,” but I am talking generally here.

For more of a breakdown of how differently men and women dream, check out the amazing Huffington Post article here.

So, is a dream a wish your heart makes? Probably.

Dream on, dreamers!

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A Step Above: How to Wear Heeled Sandals

College, Fashion & Beauty, Real World

Heeled Sandals

I have always been an advocate for the “oh this outfit? I just threw it together, no biggie” look. I like when your clothes look effortlessly put together, even if it really took your 45 minutes to perfect it.

Three simple rules are all I follow:

1. Don’t over accessorize

2. Less is more

3. When in doubt, black is best choice.

From staring at my closet for an hour and a half not knowing what to wear to having under 15 minutes to get out the door, these rules have led me to success on many occasions. Despite this, they have also led me away from a variety of pieces and accessories, including heeled sandals.

This is one shoe I avidly avoided. Who needed a slight, two-inch heel? It didn’t make sense. Either be five inches tall, a solid wedge or completely flat. The in-between felt like it was trying too hard. This spring though, I have come to love heeled sandals. In the right styles and colors, they add a level of chicness to any daytime look or an element of casual to any night outfit. With cuffs at the ankles, multiple buckles, color blocking or studs, these baby heels are taking spring wardrobes to the next step.

 

 

Still not convinced? Here are my favorite things to wear with heeled sandals:

  • Distressed denim shorts: High waisted or hip huggers, a loose pair of distressed denim paired with a graphic T-shirt and a patterned blazer is the perfect day look.
  • Loose sundress: Dress up a loose frock with a little bit of heel height. Pick dresses in bright colors and styles that only hug your chest for the ultimate feminine touch.
  • Dropped hem skirt: Tight around the toosh with a ruffle dropped below. Paired with a crop top or tank top, this look gives the ideal flirtatious, playful attitude.
  • Asymmetrical skort: The bold, Zara-inspired envelope skirts killed it this past fall with heeled booties. Continue the look with a white or patterned skort and heeled sandals. Similar effect, but a more summery vibe.

The key? Play with loose silhouettes and shorter garments. The small heel with slim and lengthen your legs without the pain of a higher heel.

 

Collage links: Zara, Lulu’s, Isabel Marant, Steve Madden

Networking: Follow Up, Follow Through

College, Real World
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Courtesy of Pinterest

Follow Up & Follow Through: These are the two most important aspects of networking in my opinion. You have to continually follow up with the people you connect with. It keeps your name in front of them and chances are they may very well have missed the first email you sent. Following through is equally as important. If you say you are going to keep someone updated, then do it! You never know who their connections are, and when they may be able to help you in the future.

Following up before and after is essential. One email is not enough. After I was left hanging on a few occasions, I vowed to never do that to anyone. So far so good, but now that I have my first job, I can see how crazy the real world, and my industry (public relations), can get. It really isn’t that hard to skip over something in your inbox, or miss an email that got filed into your spam folder. Professionals must be diligent in looking out for requests, but students and job seekers need to keep trying. Trust me, I won’t think you’re annoying if you contact me more than once. It helps keep people, including myself, accountable. Especially if they have put themselves down as a contact on networks from their alma maters, in my case the Elon Mentor Network.

Following up after the interview is more important than you realize. Courtesy pays off and will help you be memorable. As Coach Skip Prosser said, “Never delay gratitude.” You need to be thankful for the people that help you because they will no doubt be the reason you get to where you’re going. Personally, I got countless informational interviews and three job interviews by simply following up with one person I had interviewed with. He told me to let him know when I applied for any positions because he may know people at that agency. Well, a week later I emailed him that I had applied for a position and without my asking, he already had a note into his two higher up contacts to look out for my application. It is nearly impossible to break through online applications without putting in that kind of effort. My contact also asked me to interview for a job at his agency, again without my asking. Follow Up! (Do you get the point yet?)

Following through is equally as important. By following through on my informational interviews and meetings, I was presented with countless opportunities and this allowed me to meet some incredibly smart people. Make sure you call or show up on time. Professionals don’t want to be left hanging if they block out a chunk of their time for you. Also, follow through if you say you will keep someone updated. As I have pointed out from personal experience, it can potentially help you get your foot in the door for a dream job, or at least the first step on the ladder to get there.

The percentage of students and recent grads that consistently follow up and follow through is so small, that doing so instantly puts you ahead of the game. Obviously there are more steps to networking, but after you put yourself out there, these are the two that complete the cycle and really make your effort worth it.

Follow up, Follow through, and happy networking!

Courtesy of Pinterest

Courtesy of Pinterest

A Twenty-Something Transition

Real World

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It’s no secret that job security in Los Angeles’ entertainment industry isn’t exactly fantastic. This is a very unique city with a lot of freelancers working on shows that only film seven or eight months out of the year. It’s a constant battle of trying to make it work in an ever-changing landscape and once again I’m fighting the good fight of someone searching for their next project.

It would be easy to be discouraged when something like this happens, but I prefer to look at it as a new opportunity for an adventure. There are so many things I want to do in my life, and being a twenty-something in Los Angeles gives me such an advantage. I don’t have to worry about a mortgage or paying off a car (luckily). Really my only expenses are rent, food and gas, plus the occasional shopping spree (oops). This is the perfect time to explore this wonderful city, get to know a bunch of different people and figure out what I like doing. I’m a Gemini, and those of you who follow astrology, or know me personally, will know that means I like to flit from project to project and like to experience new and different things.

Long story short twenty-somethings, if you suddenly find yourself out of work or in a situation you didn’t expect, look at it as an opportunity for something great! That attitude makes all the difference. The world is your oyster!

8 Cocktails For Spring

College, Friends, Other Thoughts, Real World, Recipes, Uncategorized
Courtesy of A Beautiful Mess

Courtesy of A Beautiful Mess

Sunshine, music, patios, friends, family and the wind in your hair. What’s missing? The perfect cocktail. Lets be honest, this week is completely crawling by at a snails pace, and I need something fun to look forward to making this weekend. Here are 8 simple recipes for great spring and summer cocktails, weekend wisely!

Counting down to my all time favorite we are starting with…

08 – Kir Royale

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Courtesy of Google

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ingredients: Creme de Cassis, Chilled champagne or sparkling wine
Instructions:

  •  Pour 1 Oz of Creme de cassis in the glass
  •  Tilt the glass and fill it with your champagne or sparkling wine
  •  Give it a stir with you bar spoon or any long thin object
  •  If you have a cherry just throw it in your drink.

07 – Long Island Iced Tea

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Courtesy of Cocktails.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ingredients: 1 Oz Vodka,1 Oz Gin,1 Oz White Rum,1 Oz Silver Tequila ,1 Oz Triple sec,1.5 Oz Sweet and Sour mix,Splash of Coke,8 Ice cubes of ice
Instructions:

  • Pour the vodka and gin
  • Add the rum, tequila and triple sec
  • Add the sweet and sour mix
  • Add 8 ice cubes
  • Shake it ! 12 times at least
  • Fill your highball glass with ice, fill it to the top.Strain the cocktail into your glass
  • Strain the cocktail into the glass over the ice
  • Save a little room for the coke, top the drink with it
  • Drink or serve it, garnish with a lemon wedge

06 – Margarita

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Courtesy of Chow.com

Ingredients: 2 Oz Tequila,1 Oz Orange liqueur,Juice of 1 lime or lemon,0.5 Oz of simple syrup or Lime Cordial,8 Ice cubes or crushed ice
Instructions:

  • Pour all ingredients into the shaker.
  • Add 8 ice cubes
  • Add the fresh lime juice or just squeeze a whole lime inside
  • Shake it hard! 12 times at least
  • Strain the cocktail into your chilled glass or strain over ice (margarita on the rocks)
  • Place a lime peel on the rim of the glass or put salt on the rim of the glass. If you want to “salt your rim” check out our cocktail guru tip at the bottom of this page.
  • Drink or serve it, your Perfect Margarita is ready to drink!

05 – Mimosa

Courtesy of Inspired Taste

Courtesy of Inspired Taste

Ingredients: Half a glass of orange juice,Chilled champagne or sparkling wine
Instructions:

  • Fill half of your glass with orange juice, make sure it’s cold
  • Tilt the glass and fill it with your champagne or sparkling wine
  • Give it a stir with you bar spoon or any long thin object

04 – Apple Martini

Courtesy of Gustologist

Courtesy of Gustologist

Ingredients: 1.5 Oz Apple flavored vodka,1 Oz Sour apple liqueur or apple flavored schnapps,Dash Midori,1 Oz Pineapple juice,1 Oz Apple juice,8-10 Ice cubes
Instructions:

  • Pour the alcohol into your shaker
  • Add apple and pineapple juice
  • Add ice
  • Stir 12 times
  • Strain into a chilled cocktail glass or over fresh ice a tall glass
  • Drink or serve it, your cocktail is ready to drink!>
  • Garnish with three apple pieces on a toothpick

03 – Bellini

Courtesy of Laylita

Courtesy of Laylita

Ingredients: One third of a glass of peach puree or juice,Two thirds of Chilled champagne or sparkling wine
Instructions:

  • Muddle a whole peach (or skip this step and just pour peach juice in the the glass)
  • Tilt the glass and fill it with your champagne or sparkling wine
  • Give it a stir with you bar spoon or any long thin object

02 – Cosmopolitan

Courtesy of InspiredTaste

Courtesy of InspiredTaste

Ingredients: 2 Oz citron vodka ,1 Oz orange liqueur ,1 Oz Cranberry Juice ,Dash of Lime Cordial ,8 Ice cubes or crushed ice ,Lime peel for garnish
Instructions:

  • Chill the martini glass (click here if you want to know how)
  • Pour the liqueur and vodka to your shaker
  • Pour the cranberry and cordial to your shaker
  • Add the fresh lime juice or just squeeze a half of lime inside
  • Fill shaker with ice
  • Add 8 ice cubes
  • Stir it! 12 times at least
  • Strain your cocktail into the chilled glass

01 – Mojito

Courtesy of MyRecipes

Courtesy of MyRecipes

Ingredients: 1 Spoon white sugar ,2 Oz White Rum,Hand full of Mint leaves ,Half of one lime cut into 3 wedges ,Splash of club soda ,1.5 Oz Sweet and Sour Mix ,8 Ice cubes or crushed ice
Instructions:

  • Muddle the mint, limes and sugar, muddle until you actually smell the mint.
  • Add 2 Oz of Rum
  • Add the sweet and sour mix
  • Add 8 ice cubes
  • Shake it hard! 20 times at least
  • Double Strain into the glass full of crushed ice
  • Top the drink with club soda
  • Add 5 fresh new mint leaves and a lime wedge on top and serve it, your perfect drink is ready!

Truths from Portlandia

Other Thoughts, Real World

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When I started telling people that I was moving to Portland, everyone suggested I watch Portlandia. Now that I live here, everyone asks if the show is true… Yes. Kind of. They exaggerate characteristics, and sometimes there is some Seattle in there – but yes, it’s true. No it isn’t offensive if you ask, and yes I do find it funny.

My Portlandia Truths:

1. People Care About The Chicken

People care. Is it local? No? Get that shit out of here immediately. This is one of the huge perks of Portland, foodie central – and I love it.

 

2. The dream of the 90s is alive – in Portland

Clowning is completely acceptable, piercings and tattoos are everywhere, there are copious bands, and we like it that way.

 

3. Don’t. Forget. Your. Grocery. Bag.

The judgement is real. And only sometimes silent.

 

4. If you aren’t on social media – do you exist?

Some people actually don’t have it. Do they exist? I know a few.

 

5. Timid Portland Drivers

It may just be me, buut my colleague from New York agrees Portland drivers are the worst.

 

6. Hipster’s Will Be Hipsters

Last week I saw a biker with a cross-bow on his back.

 

7. Snobby Second-Hand Stores

Enough said.

 

8. Brunch

This one is universal, but Portland takes it to a new level at times.

 

9. Artisan Movie Theater Food

Artisan Popcorn and Truffle Fries please!

 

10. Feminist Bookstore

I haven’t seen one, but I fully believe it exists.

10 Years of Mean Girls

Other Thoughts, Real World

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Remember the first time you saw mean girls? You were intoxicated by the Plastics and all of the drama unfolding around them. You wore pink on Wednesdays, you were SO thankful your mom wasn’t a “cool mom,” and you cringed a little when she broke the crown. I have to admit, on October 3rd every year, I post “On October 3rd he asked me what day it was,” and I regularly quote the movie in everyday life.

Are you ready to feel really old? Mean Girls came out on April 30, 2004. And we’re still quoting it. This movie is the girls bible, so get in loser, we’re going shopping – for the ten best quotes from our all time favorite chick flick – and tomorrow’s Wednesday, wear pink.

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Next week marks the ten year anniversary of Mean Girls. So in honor of this milestone, and the lasting relevance of the movie we invite you to join us in our Mean Girls celebration. April 30th is a Wednesday (could it be any more perfect?), so please join us in a day of pink! Tweet us @TwentiesLiving or Instagram (@TwentySomethingLiving) us your pictures for a chance to be featured on our social media channels!

How to Design Your First Real World Home on a Budget

Budgeting, Other Thoughts, Real World
Photo courtesy of vintagerevivals.com.

Photo courtesy of vintagerevivals.com.

Making your first “real world” apartment your own can be a seriously daunting task. For starters, you have no clue how long you’ll actually live there, you’re on a pretty tight budget, and most likely, you’re pressed for space. Yet you still want you’re first home to really feel like a home. Don’t worry! These tips will help you turn your new space into a place you love calling your own, without breaking the bank.

1. Don’t over commit.

It’s not smart to make big-ticket purchases just yet. You’re in the transient phase—spending too much money on large-budget items could potentially backfire down the road…  especially if you’ll be moving in the near future. Make inexpensive purchases that can easily relocate with you on your next move—and if they can’t, reselling them is no big deal. In addition to flea markets and thrift stores, sites like Craigslist, Overstock, Ebay and Etsy are amazing resources for bargain finds. For our NYC friends, check out curatedcraigslist.com for Craigslist’s best home items in your ‘hood.

2. Dual-purposed items are your friend.

Desks and tables are not always the least expensive items on the market… but both are pretty similar. If you’re truly pressed for spaced, purchase a dual-purpose surface—something that’s great for both working and eating. A slicker surface, like this simple Ikea piece, is easy to wipe down with a damp cloth (post-meal), while also serving as a great (and unobtrusive) workspace. And it hardly weighs a thing, so it’s so easy to move around!

This Ikea table works great as both a workspace and a spot to sit and eat a meal. Plus, it's only $40!

Photo courtesy of Homepolish.

 

3. Think UP.

Never underestimate the potential your walls hold. For example, if you’ve got no room (or extra cash) for a nightstand, install a simple wall shelf above your bed. This maximizes space in a decorative fashion. Inserting a dowel rod or stringing a rope between the shelf’s brackets also makes a fantastic magazine rack + bookmark. Throw in a nice book-end and/or a droopy plant (I’d recommend string of pearls or burro’s tail), and you’re lookin’ good.

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You can also use wall shelves as storage space. Choosing baskets like this or this make for a good-looking option, while keeping your things nice and organized.

4. Gallery walls are basically the grown-up version of collages.

Framing large pieces of art is expensive. Creating a gallery wall is way less expensive, and way more fun. They’re a great way to mix and match artwork, photographs, wallpaper or fabric samples, and your favorite greeting cards. Ikea sells really cheap frames in an assortment of colors, which you shouldn’t be afraid to mix! Metallic + wood? Black + white? Anything goes. Throw a fun little mirror into the mix if you can—reflective surfaces make your teeny space feel more spacious.

Photo by Claire Esparros.

Photo by Claire Esparros.

To save even more money, pick up colorful washi or artist’s tape from your local craft supply store (apx. $5.99 per roll), and create your own DIY frames. Simple frames (or washi tape frames) arranged in an asymmetrical manner allow you the freedom to add more pieces (and rearrange) down the road.

Photo courtesy of Pinterest.

Photo courtesy of Pinterest.

5. Stick with succulents.

There are few things better than bringing home fresh flowers. They liven and brighten up a space without taking up hardly any room. Sadly, flowers are not forever. Invest the few extra bucks in a succulent or two. These adorable plants require very little maintenance* and really make a huge difference in your space—they even clear the air of unwanted toxins! They come in varying sizes, and can be found at your local Home Depot, Trader Joe’s, or grocery market. A dash of green really goes a long way—you’ll be surprised at the happiness a little plant can bring!

*Succulents should be watered once a week, and can survive in high or low light conditions. Photo by Claire Esparros.

*Succulents should be watered once a week, and can survive in high or low light conditions. Photo by Claire Esparros.

5 Ways to Survive Easter with your Extended Family

Family, Other Thoughts, Real World

Survival Kit

You woke up to beautiful sunshine gleaming through your window, birds chirping, and the idea of eating gargantuan loads of chocolate is on the horizon and then it dawns on you: you have to spend an entire day with your obnoxious, idiotic extended family. Already started prematurely stuffing chocolate in your face to cope? It’s alright. I have five recommendations nurtured over years of practice to help you get through this day. Deep breath, let’s begin.

1) don’t talk

I’m serious. Don’t do it. Just smile and nod. Say yes when appropriate, and if you must ask a question, say “Oh really?”. The less you engage others, the better. Trust me.

2) don’t fight, take the apathetic road

You’re cornered by those relatives who watch Fox news and collect their Welfare checks and use them to buy canned ham and gun amo. You’ve spotted them when you walked in, cringed, and have been avoiding making eye contact ever since, but now they got you. Crap is flying from their mouth faster than the one batch of buttered rolls were devoured. Hold it together, don’t take his bullshit bait. Try and find a pause, say “fascinating” and just walk away. Don’t start fighting facts with someone who bases their life in myths.

3) you’re stuck with your intensely talkative aunt, and you feel too bad to leave

Just focus on the food. I recommend a dip. Try and stand next to food during this convo. I prefer a dip because you can always blame its quick disappearance on the little cousins, or at least that’s what I’ve always done. Just focus on the colors of the food and how it tastes as your aunt slowly and circuitously tells you about her nine cats and diabetes.

4) buddy system

Find your favorite sibling and latch on. Then throw her at your talkative aunt when she comes your way. Girls gotta survive somehow.

5) find dat booze

When all else fails, snatch a few beers, put those in a hiding spot, snatch a few more and get to it. Peace be with you.

5 Essentials for Spring

College, Fashion & Beauty, Friends, Other Thoughts, Real World, Uncategorized

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This has been quite the dreary and never-ending winter. With abnormally cold temperatures and wintery mixed precipitation, it has been difficult to kiss our parkas goodbye and bid spring a warm welcome.

Usher in this spring with bold floral prints and feminine silhouettes because 2014 is all about the girly-girl in you. Not sure where to start? Here are five essentials for this spring:

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1. White sleeveless blouse from H&M, 2. Floral skirt from Lulu’s, 3. Red fringe tote from Zara, 4. Steve Madden red heels, 5. Paul & Joe Patterned drawstring shorts from Net-A-Porter

1. White blouses with high collars– Button-up those blouses to the top button; this spring it is all about the neckline. Tucked into a floral pencil skirt or high-waisted work trousers, this modern, crisp blouse is the perfect staple for your spring closet. White blouses can have the office, up-tight stigma but you can dodge this by picking studded collars or accessorizing with a bold statement necklace.

2. Fuller skirts – Ditch the tight, body-con skirts and accentuate your waist with a fuller, flowing skirt. Modernize the shape with a tighter crop top or a day-time bustier. These skirts are the best in floral patterns or pastel colors.

3. Fringe bags– Don’t worry, these bags are not comparable to hippie sacks from the 70’s. In bold jeweled tone hues or your basic neutrals, this fringe adds texture and character to any look. Selecting rectangular or square shaped bags will also help you avoid the vintage, rounded sack look.

4. Ankle-strapped heels– Give your feet a break and steer clear of mile-high pumps. This season it is easy to achieve a girly, feminine it look with a shorter heel, an ankle strap and a playful color.

5. Drawstring shorts– This spring is all about the sporty-chic, but that doesn’t mean you have to resort to gym shorts and Nike sneakers. Similar sleek looks can be accomplished with looser shorts detailed with a drawstring waist band. Floral or geometric prints, pastel colors and suede or cotton materials will give the look the necessary feminine, warm attitude. Paired with a graphic t-shirt or a basic tank and you’re ready for a day out and about.