Today I found myself perusing BuzzFeed for all of the usual quizzes that may or may not actually tell my anything about myself. I can tell you right now that being “Collin Farrell”‘s sex tape, or being told that I am “practically on top of things,” or being classified as the Lion from “The Lion and the Mouse” doesn’t really impact my life. But then I began clicking buttons on a still fun, but somewhat more serious quiz – How Grown-Up Are You Actually ?
How grown up am I? That’s something that I continually struggle with on my own – and to be perfectly honest I’m not sure that a quiz can help me make up my mind. Being a “grown up” always seemed so glamorous as a child and as a teen, and even sometimes as a “young adult.” Grown-ups had their shit together. They had all of their bills paid before they were due. They had a house, and it wasn’t just a house, it was a home. They had friends, family, jobs and they balanced it all without breaking a sweat. They could go out and go wild on a Friday, but still be up bright and early Saturday to clean the house and hit brunch. They aren’t real.
At least, that’s the conclusion that I have drawn – although according to BuzzFeed:
You’re straight up GROWN. You’re independent, responsible, and mature, exactly as you should be. You know your way around a fun night and believe in having fun, but you don’t make other people clean up after you when you’re done. You’ve got life figured out, and everyone’s jealous. Congrats!
Hate to break it to you BuzzFeed – I don’t have it figured out, and I don’t know many twenty-somethings that do. We worry about our bills, our houses have gotten half of their furniture from Ikea, balancing everything is not as easy as it looks, and sometimes we are too hung over to even move, much less make it to brunch.
And you know what? That is totally okay. As I have come to realize that I may or may not ever have my shit completely together, I have also realized that it isn’t about having it all together or making it look like it is all together – it is about being authentic. Being honest with yourself, and accepting that sometimes that hangover is going to cause you to miss brunch, sometimes you may hate your Ikea bookshelf – but at least it is yours, and most importantly being happy with yourself and the life that you are creating for yourself.
There is no such this as having it all together, so remember that everyone has their own struggles. Now get out there and kick butt – How Grown-Up Are You Actually ? Who cares.