As long as I can remember I’ve always loved reading advice columns. In magazines, newspapers, online, even on the radio (Loveline and Ryan’s Roses anyone?) they’re all great to me. There’s something sensational about reading “Traumarama” in 17 Magazine or the relationship questions in Cosmo, because the stories are, most of the time, outrageous. I’m excited to announce that I have found my new advice obsession and her name is Emily Yoffe aka “Dear Prudence” who writes for Slate.
She manages to get such a wide array of letters that there is something for everyone. Don’t want to read about two fraternal gay twins that ended up falling in love and are wondering if they should tell their family? That’s fine, just check out Prudence’s advice for the girl who’s boyfriend keeps insisting she lose weight. Perhaps infidelity stores are more your style? There’s more letters in here about illegitimate children and affairs than can be found in all the daytime soap operas.
Although the letters are insane, and half the time I find my jaw dropping during my read-through, what I really love is Prudence’s advice. She does not pull any punches and says the kinds of things you only wish you could say to your friends about their problems. Most of the time she suggests therapy and more than often, divorce – justifiably so.
There’s something refreshing about her brazen honesty. Too often I find people have a hard time giving their true opinion, after all, no one wants to be mean to their friends. It’s also hard to know when someone truly wants your advice or is just asking you to confirm what they want to hear. In our early twenties, we are all just floating along trying to figure out this insane thing called “real life” and it’s hard to know what to do or how to act, what to expect at work, what kind of relationships are worth our time and really just how to survive and thrive. My advice to you? Read Dear Prudence. You’ll be able to put your problems in perspective or maybe you’ll be able to relate and try out some of Prudie’s sage wisdom.